Whatever happened to...

Honesty-Integrity-Respect

I’m the type of person who is honest... possibly to a fault.  If I think something I obviously tell you, good or bad.  I choose to live my life with honesty each day.  I don’t lie every.  I may omit something for reasons related to ethics or etiquette, but that is a very rare occurrence and special situation.  So I want to know what the hell has happened to our society, where we went wrong in parenting and education systems to create a society of liars.

If you look around in your life at all the unneeded and unwanted drama and really dig into it what is the route of it all?  I got to thinking, for 1200 km’s this last weekend about this question.  I came to some conclusions that apply to my life, and I think that it is so simple that it most likely applies to everyone’s lives.

Drama usually begins when there is a miss communications or complete breakdown/lack of communication.  What is the reason to not communicate?  Because you have something you are hiding or are trying to pull over on someone else.  Now, do we do this because we care about people in our lives and are trying to protect them from ourselves?  Or is it because we are scared of being judged by them?  Or (and this is my choice of an answer) are we simply just too selfish to care how our decisions, secrets or lies will inconvenience or affect them.

I’m also the type of person who has integrity... If I say I am going to do something I will do it, if I say I will do it at a specific time, it will be done at that time.  Why?  Because if I don’t then my decision to not do as I say or promise can and most likely will affect someone else.  How so?  Well, if you have told someone you will do something, or have plans with that person, they now are depending on you for something intertwined in their life, ergo, and your decision to shit the bed (so to speak) will affect the other person’s bed.

 So now, with the lack of honesty the drama has started with the lack/breakdown of the communication, but shyt happens and there are always reasons someone may not be able to get a hold of you (although I agree that in today’s age of technology there is next to no excuse why) so that person assumes (should there be an understanding of benefit of the doubt) that things are still all good and continues with plans.  But now, with the lack of integrity of one party, the innocent party is now completely uninformed and miss informed about the situation.  So not only are they spinning with insecurity due to lack of communication, but they are going out of their way to maintain their integrity for absolutely no reason.

That leaves us with respect! I’m the type of person that has respect for me and others.  Even if I don’t particularly like you (or at this point, think you lack all qualities of a decent human being) I will still give you the respect and decency of a human being.  If I’m not going to talk to you I tell you so, that way you are not wondering WTF and lets continue with honesty here... you will have no reason to bother me further.  I’m also the type of person however, that if you have a lack of respect for me, I will just write you off until you choose to inform me I shouldn’t.  Simple.

So finally, with the lack of honesty and integrity the drama has become full force, it is now a time consuming thought process of WTF for the innocent party.  Add in the lack of respect and we are left with a situation of hurt feels or anger... or most likely both.

Let’s explore the reason that the non-innocent party has become this way... 600 km’s later I came to a simple conclusion, which can be summed up with a few words.  A person who lacks Honesty, Integrity, and Respect for others or self is simply Immature, Selfish and Self-absorbed!.  So I’m putting this out here... how do people who are immature, selfish and self-absorbed expect to be treated with honesty, integrity and respect if they don’t have those qualities for themselves?

But then again, I’m Just Some Girl... who apparently thinks way too much!